When you've established a rapport with someone and you want to meet, the nervy first date is on the cards.

Of course everyone will be nervous to some extent, but by this stage you've clearly created some kind of relationship you both want to take further, and are both in the same boat! As long as you've both been truthful all along the way, there's nothing to be worried about. Take into consideration these things when going on a first date:

- make sure the person knows it's a first date - not some wishy washy "hanging out" session

- the first date should have some sense of ceremony and meaning, so put some thought into it! make a plan, so there is no awkwardness of not knowing where to go and what to do

- suggest a neutral place, perhaps of cultural interest - a museum, play, movie - where you can exchange views and observations - if you've done your homework, this is a prime opportunity to impress!

- avoid restaurants where the chance of embarrassment is high - so it's best to rule out asian restaurants if you're not sure of the other person's ability to hold chopsticks, or other places where you are likely to need your hands to eat (spillages can ruin an evening)

- don't constantly go on about ex's - wait until the other party brings the subject up - if ever!

- don't talk about sexual health issues - it presumes too much and is a total turn off

- always bring enough cash with you to pay for your share of the bill, even if you've been asked out - it can lead to embarrassing situations if your date is a tightwad!

above all on the first date, have fun - that's what it's supposed to all be about.